Meet and Greet: How To Beat the Cheat

A Saturday night like no other; spent working. as I spun around to help another customer who was friendly and sweet, I laughed as the man entertained me. Before leaving he whipped around and wrote down his number: not by my asking, or flirting, but off his own interest. When I came home I put the piece of paper away, deciding not to pursue anything for the better good, despite how attractive & charming he was.

2 weeks later, the same man appeared, smiling with wide eyes. He joked with another girl working with me, and as he walked away she told me what every woman expects to see coming:

"Yeah I know him! He's my best friends boyfriend. Yeah they've been together awhile. .....Why??????"

Smiling to myself I knew it was inevitable.

Later he came up to me and said, "Apparently I tried to pick you up last week...so where's my call?"

and, no joke I replied with these exact words: "So where's your girlfriend???".
And that was that. He scurried off and I have honestly to this day never seen someone more embarrased or shamed.

When the man came back at the end of the night, he was now accompanied by his Mrs, and she evil-eyed me like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, it was my fault. Except - I had never encouraged the guy. I didnt know of his attachment. Naturally she would be mad, but to blame me seemed out of the question.

This had me wondering: how many men behaved as though they were single? What happened if I HAD of called this guy? His girlfriend never would have known. Was it suddenly "acceptable" by men in today's age to do this? It seemed a good answer to the begging question of why so many of us have a 'once off'.

Shameful? Yes.

Unbelievably it was so common! I believed more investigating needed to be done...were we all lacking in morals that we couldn't stick to the one person? Sure it's difficult & if you CANT do it, then don't be in a relationship - as that is the soul purpose of being in a relationship. Don't tell an 18 year old virgin you're in love with her.....but grab 3 other girls at the same time, then lie about it when she's been told from the ACTUAL PEOPLE of whats happened. I couldn't help but laugh as the familiarity of the scent of an insecure, egotistical, unsure, emotionally abusive man(or men?) wafted over me as more then a few GIRLS and women alike wrote stories& explanations, just as I have right now, about the man (AND MEN) who have done this to them. Men aren't always to blame, because over time women have adapted this ideology, most likely because they have had the same thing done to them before.


It was all too familiar to Bill Clintons "Don't ask, don't tell policy" from 1993...if you didn't ask, you wouldn't know.

Nearly every person only concerned themselves, with themselves and never others. We're a society that views winning & losing; and nobody wants to lose. We all want to gain. Maybe we're greedy; maybe we can't keep ourselves to one person. Or maybe nobody reminded us of how narrow-minded we're being.
Sure we can selfishly ignore everything we've been taught. Or we can embrace "inner goodness". Have a snore,but acting like a shitcunt won't have people respect or like you. Dont think you need respect? Then you're the exact type of person I'm talking about.

♥

May 2008
- Entirely true story, nothing fabricated